Hi I’m Alex Carling, a therapist in private practice in Hull.
I’ve been in private practice since 2012, which is when I completed my diploma in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy.
At the risk of sounding like a cliché, I love my job and I think that’s originally down to my own therapy experience during training. I’ve always been a firm believer that people can change and that our histories influence who we are - and my personal therapy allowed me to experience it first hand; I changed and I understood my own history much more than I previously had. To level it out a bit – I hated going to therapy for a big chunk of it, toying with the idea that living in denial was easier but life was getting better and I wanted more so I stuck it out – thankfully!!
Doing my psychotherapy diploma seemed like a natural progression after completing my Psychology degree and whilst working with 0-25’s in my employed work at a local women’s refuge. Working at the refuge and Survivors, Hull (before it closed) is where I gained the most experience of working therapeutically with trauma and is has massively influenced the other services I’ve developed.
The key words for my role as a therapist are awareness and change - it’s a team effort where I have the training and clients have the personal knowledge; together we get them to the point where they understand themselves at a deeper level, so they understand what motivates behaviours, what triggers feelings and how to move out of those, towards the change they want.
Psychotherapy operates at a deep level and it takes time, but that’s why the change is long lasting and massively rewarding on both parts. It works for individuals, old and young, and couples – it can work for you too.